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Raising Cain: Protecting the Emotional Life of Boys

Dan Kindlon, Michael Thompson

How can parents and teachers protect the emotional life of boys, who are born with emotional potential but taught to hide it?

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Author
Dan Kindlon, Michael Thompson

Why read it

  • You will see how a culture of cruelty preys on unpopular or nonconforming boys
  • You will understand the high cost to everyone of the emotional illiteracy common among boys and men
  • You will learn why harsh discipline can teach a boy fear and anger instead of conscience and empathy

Who it is for

  • A parent of a boy who seems angry or withdrawn
  • A teacher dealing with boys in a classroom
  • A father who wants to talk openly with his son

Contents

  1. Preface to the Paperback Edition
  2. Introduction
  3. Michael Thompson
  4. Dan Kindlon
  5. Chapter 1 The Road Not Taken
  6. TURNING BOYS AWAY FROM THEIR INNER LIFE
  7. Emotional Literacy: Education versus Ignorance
  8. All Boys Are Born with Emotional Potential
  9. Boy Biology: No Simple Answers
  10. Closer to Home: Training Boys for Toughness
  11. The Story of Cain: Could There Have Been a Different Ending?
  12. Protecting the Emotional Life of Boys
  13. Chapter 2 Thorns among Roses
  14. THE STRUGGLE OF YOUNG BOYS IN EARLY EDUCATION
  15. Michael with Alan: A Boy’s-Eye View of School and Teachers
  16. The “Differentness” of Boys: When Assets Become Liabilities
  17. Gender Differences: Worlds Apart in a Classroom Together
  18. Dan with Joe: A Paper Trail of Trouble to Come
  19. Wild Animals and Entitled Princes: Destructive Boy Archetypes
  20. When Boy Activity Is Misinterpreted, Mismanaged
  21. Michael with John, Norman: Negativity as a Cover
  22. Medicating Boyhood: A Question of Culture, Philosophy
  23. Boys Will Work for Schools That Work for Boys
  24. Meeting the Challenge of Boy Energy, Boy Potential
  25. Chapter 3 The High Cost of Harsh Discipline
  26. Boys on the Receiving End of a Punishing Culture
  27. Boys as a Lightning Rod for Harsh Discipline
  28. Boy Activity Pushes Buttons at School and at Home
  29. The Lessons of Fear, Anger, and Weak Conscience
  30. What Boys Lose: Empathy, Conscience, and Connection
  31. Discipline: The True Right Stuff
  32. Chapter 4 The Culture of Cruelty
  33. Michael with Seventh-Grade Boys: Learning to Talk … but Not Too Much
  34. Striving for Masculinity: In Search of the Big Impossible
  35. Vulnerabilities: How Masculinity and Sexuality Drive Defensive Behavior
  36. Size Matters: Bigger Is Better
  37. Sports: An Influence in Every Boy’s Life, for Better or Worse
  38. Dan and Connor: The Ordinary and Important Inner Life of a Boy
  39. Friendship and Betrayal in the Culture of Cruelty
  40. The Silence
  41. Chapter 5 Fathers and Sons
  42. A LEGACY OF DESIRE AND DISTANCE
  43. Sons under the Influence
  44. Daddy, Do You Matter?
  45. In the Beginning: The Lost Mandate of Fatherhood
  46. Middle Childhood: Being a Good Enough Father
  47. Fathers and Their Adolescent Sons: Separate Realities
  48. When Father Doesn’t Know Best: Competition, Criticism, and Withdrawal
  49. Fathers with Sons: Closing the Emotional Gulf
  50. Chapter 6 Mothers and Sons
  51. A STORY OF CONNECTION AND CHANGE
  52. When a Mother and Her Son Are Out of Sync
  53. Developmental Changes and Expectations
  54. Mothers as Teachers of Emotional Understanding
  55. Mothers and Sons at Odds: When Expectations Become Obstacles
  56. The Transition of Touch
  57. A Mix of Mothers, a Mix of Messages
  58. Reclaiming Lost Boys: Strengthening Connections
  59. Dan with Mom: Making Room for Other Relationships
  60. Michael with Ethan, Tyler, and Susan: Lessons in Letting Go

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