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Untangled: Guiding Teenage Girls Through the Seven Transitions into Adulthood

Lisa Damour

What is really going on when a teenage daughter pushes her parents away, and how do seven steps toward adulthood explain it?

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Author
Lisa Damour

Why read it

  • You will see that much of the behavior that worries you is normal and a sign of progress
  • You will know when to step in, when to hold back, and which signs mean you should worry
  • You will learn to notice your own sore spots so they stop feeding fights with your daughter

Who it is for

  • A parent of a girl just entering her teens
  • A parent of a teenage daughter who often feels shut out
  • A teacher or mentor who works with teenage girls

Contents

  1. Introduction
  2. One: Parting with Childhood
  3. The Cold Shoulder
  4. Allergic to Questions
  5. Surprisingly Mean
  6. The Swimming Pool
  7. Totally Competent, Except for When She’s Not
  8. Blooming, Reluctantly
  9. Smoke Without Fire
  10. Parting with Childhood: When to Worry
  11. Two: Joining a New Tribe
  12. The Pull of Popular
  13. Tribal Warfare
  14. Frenemies
  15. If Your Tribe Jumped Off a Bridge…
  16. When Tribes Need Elders
  17. Social (Media) Skills
  18. Joining a New Tribe: When to Worry
  19. Three: Harnessing Emotions
  20. You: The Emotional Dumping Ground
  21. I’m Upset, Now You’re Upset
  22. Befriending Distress
  23. Catalytic Reactions
  24. Coping by Posting
  25. How to Become an Accidental Helicopter Parent
  26. Harnessing Emotions: When to Worry
  27. Four: Contending with Adult Authority
  28. Seeing Behind the Curtain
  29. The End of “Because I Said So”
  30. Framing Danger
  31. Rupture and Repair
  32. Crazy Spots
  33. Adults with Faults
  34. Holding the Line
  35. Contending with Adult Authority: When to Worry
  36. Five: Planning for the Future
  37. Impulses, Meet the Internet
  38. The Road to the Future: Who Drives?
  39. Making the Grade
  40. Tense About Tests
  41. Planning for Next Week
  42. Dealing with Disappointment
  43. Planning for the Future: When to Worry
  44. Six: Entering the Romantic World
  45. A Dream Deferred
  46. A Match Made in a Marketing Meeting
  47. Offering Some Perspective
  48. The Inner Compass
  49. Dating for Credit
  50. Being Gay: The Slur and the Reality
  51. Entering the Romantic World: When to Worry
  52. Seven: Caring for Herself
  53. Nodding Without Listening
  54. Girls, Food, and Weight
  55. Sleep vs. Technology
  56. Getting Real About Drinking
  57. Straight Talk About Drugs
  58. Sex and Its Risks
  59. Caring for Herself: When to Worry
  60. Conclusion

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